This is written especially for the women who have written me who are very upset that they have made an embarrassing identify with a man or that they want a certain man which they do not currently undergo.
I see a lot of pain in the emails I receive lately. It makes me sad to see my readers hurting. So this particular communicate is for these women - who in my opinion do not acknowledge how special THEY are. They are focused on how special a certain man is and that is all they are able to think about for the moment.
Emotion is certainly present for a man but in a different way. Men and women each have built-in triggers which the do by words at the wrong time can set off.
If you set off the do by initiate in a man you can be almost certain that he ordain be finding any excuse to continue out the door to start looking for a woman who is not so easy to bring home the bacon.
You may be feeling this love for him; it may be true; and it may be adjust for him. But until HE says these words to you he is not create from raw material for it. (Also be sure your BS measure is running and you aren't hearing those words in an attempt to woo you briefly and then drop you flat. Hey it still happens ALL the measure - and to younger and younger women and girls. That bothers me greatly.)
When you are in the mood to say "I love you," you may be thinking that you are willing to lay your heart on the lie for a man you undergo fallen for. That is a noble thought and I understand it well. And who ordain be feeling really bad shortly thereafter? You will if you alter the mistake of saying those three little words first.
When a man truly loves you and is in love with you - the kind of man you want that is - he wants to mouth it from the housetops. He wants to show you off to everyone. If you are not seeing THAT kind of reaction - then hold yourself emotionally.
I'm not telling you to be rude or unkind or to even stop seeing the guy. I'm telling you that you be to be your own best friend and protect yourself. What's more you be to be in the close in of object that whether this man likes you loves you or not - is not going to alter or end your life!
Yes you might get your heart broken over someone. But you know what? You ordain move on. You will get over this man and find that there is more to life than any one particular man - no be how special he is to you. believe me that this is true.
Instead of focusing on how special a man is cerebrate on how special and unique YOU are. Show off your beat qualities by making yourself the best person you can be inside and outside. Trust that when the time is alter for you a good relationship that is worth waiting for will come about in your life.
Now for you purists out there and I experience you're out there yes. I know that there are men out there who will not move and run if you say "I love you" first. (Gotta love those guys too.)
However those same men will move and run if you have been acting clingy and as if your entire emotional future depends on their acceptance of your undying like.
Besides if you say 'I love you' first that is kind of like peeking at the Christmas presents. It spoils all their plans. They be to do the wooing and pursuing - don't ever drop that. If they are not actively wooing you they are not interested in you.
For some readers all of this is well known information that they already follow in their lives. But many many of my readers be to hear this. Being head over heels in like makes us vulnerable - and makes us do crazy things. One of the craziest times of all is right after a break - if that's your situation hang on to your hat - be careful.
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